This is an issue that is widely observed and has even been the subject of scientific research. Women are actually more likely to fall in love with men who have a lot of potential to upset them. Although even women couldn’t understand the reason for this, experts got to work and investigated!

A respectful and chaos-free relationship A relationship with ups and downs is more attractive to people because it seems ‘boring’ to manage. If you’re experiencing “toxic relationships,” which has been on the agenda lately, we have some bad news for you: It’s not the butterflies in your stomach; Your subconscious is telling you “run away, save yourself!” signal.

The classic saying we always hear: “I have butterflies in my stomach!”

There is no one who has not fallen into this cliché at least once in their life. Although it appears to be caused by excitement, this is actually not the case. What we feel as excitement is complete It’s just a concern.

Our brains suddenly shut down adrenaline hormone It views it as a danger and prepares the person for all kinds of dangers that may arise. In this way, the accelerated blood flow to the organs is transferred to the muscles, resulting in those famous butterflies flying in the stomach.

Healthy feelings do not initially cause excitement.

We can compare this to the feeling you get when you go to the toilet when you are very stuck. When you get to the toilet door, your needs become even greater. In this case, adrenaline increases, The blood supply to the organs decreases and the intestines become smaller. Because we get excited, we feel more stuck.

“Are love and the need to go to the toilet the same?” you might think. You’re right, but scientific research also shows that women prefer men who make them feel this ‘butterfly effect’.

Nowadays, attraction to men with bad qualities and interest in such men is becoming more and more common.

at the University of Huelva A study examined the dynamics behind this trend and yielded interesting results. Women mainly experience physical and verbal violence; Men have been found to be the main perpetrators of sexual and relationship violence.

“Bad boy” The model concretely represents masculine characteristics such as courage, fearlessness and strength. This model also symbolizes insensitivity by appearing invincible like the epic hero of literature.

toxic behavior Because women find men who exhibit this behavior more ‘possessive’, they think it is a sign of love rather than a complex.

Women who are predisposed to these types of relationships generally tend to build strong bonds with their male friends. Even though there is psychological and sometimes physical violence in the relationship, these women remain attached to these men. Special desire to correct the othercan evoke this desire.

Here we will have to discuss attachment style. Because of the abandoned man syndrome Living men are generally avoidant attachment types. In psychology, women who are attracted to such men also have an anxious attachment style.

Good, anxiously attached A person finds the person who will activate his/her fear instinct as if he/she chose it. He carries out this task completely with his instincts.

A healthy person will generally find it boring to an anxious person. Because the relationship he’s used to is not that relationship. Unfortunately, the underlying reason for this situation is are childhood traumas. Because a person who is used to the feelings he experienced in childhood considers the same feelings as his safe and comfortable environment when he grows up.

Therefore, he thinks that fear and being on guard at all times is “being safe.” in an unhealthy relationship It means the sails have been set.

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