this digital love brought with it new ways of connecting and new languages.

Following the famous psychologist Lev Vygotsky’s theory of thought, it can be concluded that both language and thought are closely related, they affect each other and they are at the same time.. Seen in this way, new connections and concepts of virtuality are in constant interaction.

new terminologies

In this extensive exchange of ideas and forms, new terminologies emerged that applied to the plane of love (and lack of love). This situation ghost from the English termGhost” or “ghost” and refers to situations in which one of the people disappears without explanation after a few dates or after having a relationship for a certain period of time.

this bread crumbcan be literally translated as “leave a crumb” It refers to the actions of people who do not completely disappear, but do not make an appointment or meet. They occasionally leave a virtual greeting or comment on the networks to say “I’m here”, but not completely.

There is one element in common with what is known as orbitA behavior that involves cutting ties completely in the analog world, but staying connected in virtuality through retweets, “likes” and comments on social networks.

stand, For its part, it’s about the breadcrumbs because it also implies putting the person in the “spare queue” to use as a plan B or even plan C if other things fail. It takes breadcrumbs to sort through, namely: maintain contact so as not to leave the other person in doubt and not completely lose it.

In turn, it is called cushioning to the behavior of some people who have one partner and sustain several at the same timethrow pillow” or “pillows”, that is, the people you flirt with from time to time, without necessarily specifying, be a backup in case you lose contact with your partner.

conversions of links

Psychologist, author, and member of the Argentine Psychoanalytic Association (APA), Dr. “With regard to the emotional sphere, platforms have given rise to various forms of interaction, in which it is possible to glimpse different neurotic behaviors”, Mónica Cruppi analyzes. in dialogue with information.

According to experts, the near-massive use of social networks today has established a certain social legitimacy for many of the above-mentioned behaviors.

“Perhaps we can think of this socially accepted cruelty and indifference as a result of the current discomfort. The social disconnection – entwined by the pandemic among other factors – causes loneliness, isolation, frustration and disappointment in relationships,'” says Cruppi.

Sociologist Diego Ezequiel Litvinoff also highlights the transformation of connections created by platforms and other forms of digital interaction.

“If at first virtuality appears as a way to maintain previous human relationships with new means, Over time, it becomes clear that these are outcomes and that they direct and foster an inherent transformation of these relationships. and that of people with machines” he emphasizes in the dialogue with the sociologist. information.

In his vision, virtuality is not only a new medium in which human relations take place, but also “concretizes a historical paradigm shift in the relations of power and resistance”.

Love in virtual times

The technology can be seen in a positive light as networks open up more possibilities for interaction than at any time in history. Today we are literally one click away from meeting thousands of people.

“Gilles Lipovetsky thinks that it is much easier to meet people today, but for a shorter period of time, they are connected to each other.; Research shows that at some point great disappointment arises and the feeling of loneliness and frustration persists despite the internet and smartphones,” says Cruppi.

Virtuality then opened up more avenue, but at the same time calmed the impermanence of bonds and desire by the same expansion.. Litvinoff, for his part, emphasizes that people are at the mercy of the system, and in this case, they speak of virtuality and reproduce valid codes.

“The networks are not used to find a mate, but the couple is found to continue to feed the circulation of digital codes.. While the medium determines the rules of the game where it always wins, the subject is always on the sidelines as the multiplier of these codes, not the loser”, says the expert.

The famous “he nailed me the visa”

A few years ago, sociologists and researchers from Conicet, Maximiliano Marentes, Mariana Palumbo and Martín Boy posted a job analyzes some of these codes that have emerged or developed by virtuality.

“When someone waits, there is someone waiting, but that’s not fixed: in love relationships, matters change and dynamics change,” emphasize the researchers in the study Nailed me: teens and new tech waiting in love.

And they add that new technologies aren’t detrimental to links on their own, they just present new challenges.

“PFor us, networks are not negative: with them people unite, establish relationships, eroticize themselves. It’s just that sometimes they make matters even more uncontrollable because they allow too much control: they make us feel that the other is not doing as expected,” Palumbo said in a statement released at the time.

He also focused on the role of expectations and the ability to adapt to these new contexts.

“Often times the best surfers in the love stream are those with a more pragmatic vision: that’s it, the point. For those who start with many ideals, every unfulfilled ideal requires suffering”, concluded the sociologist.