We often discuss what the internet and social media have added and taken away from our lives. Well, what are the dimensions of these gains and losses, which are generally related to social relations and human psychology? Have we ever thought about how serious it can be?

So yes, scientists who are researching these issues are aware of this. But our subject is not her, it’s a 15 year old teenager who spends almost all of his waking time on every platform on the internet, or an antisocial person who gets excluded, trying to create his own social world on the internet.

These people, male or female, increasingly trapped in their ‘online world’they are led to wrong thoughts and disappear… Incel is a “community” that has come together with many people who “think like them” and increase the hatred of women, and unfortunately the thoughts of this community have led to the death of dozens people.

No one can beat you in the online world…

Because our online life is so safe (!), especially when there is a ‘blessing’ like ‘anonymity’. of a space where we drown in our own echo chamber We don’t even think it’s possible that it will affect us much. In any case, it’s hard to spot. Because the job of the algorithm is to show us what we want.

For example, we say we hate apples, let’s see what! We are not alone, there are many people who do not like apples. and of course not liking apples is a very normal and ‘correct’ thought… So if there is an occasional apple lover, what can he do? He’s not in the mood to hit us, jump off the screen, talk a little, leave… After all, we’re right, look how busy we are!

“I hate women, it’s impossible for my life to get better, so I have to kill and die”

The concept of Incel first hit the internet culture in the 1990s, when it was used on a website set up by a Canadian student. This is our friend by sharing their ‘not’ relationships and sexual experiences Awaiting comment, people of all genders are starting to tell their own non-sexual and non-relationship stories on this website.

Based on the event ‘excluded’, ‘marginal’ ‘marginalized and isolated because of mental health problems’ There is the idea of ​​being able to talk about sexuality and relationship problems on an inclusive platform. Over time, the word “incel” began to be used as an abbreviation on the site where these “reluctant singles” got together. In other words, it had nothing to do with misogyny or “poor men” when he left. But unfortunately things have changed…

Today, incels use this expression as an abbreviation for the word “involuntarily celibate” (“reluctantly single”). This one as a justification for ‘reluctant celibacy’ on the other hand, choosing men based on their unfortunate and never recoverable genetics (such as lack of muscular body or sharp facial features), their psychology, their social status and all they know is these criteria. that’s to keep ‘poor’ men off the line They show women. Incels give the name ‘chad’ to ‘genetically correct’ and ‘lucky’ men.

According to the Incels, women are inferior, sex, money, and status-loving creatures. According to the thins increasing empowerment of women and greater freedom to choose their own partners It’s a big mistake and these women deserve the worst punishment. Unfortunately, when we talk about punishment here, we are talking about a broad scale from rape to death.

Again, they separate, men who are ‘handsome’, ‘muscled’, ‘rich’ and make a woman ‘feel like a princess’ While women’s sole target, the incels, who don’t have them, don’t hesitate to openly call themselves pathetic, hate themselves and their fate, feel sorry for each other, and turn this pain into hatred and violence.

Especially people who congregate on platforms like Reddit amplify their toxic thoughts by communicating with each other and nurturing them. However, after the big debates of recent years, platforms like Reddit, subreddits where incels congregate, etc. Despite this, published reports show that between 2021 and 2022 there was a 59% increase in “mass murder” posts published by scammers. .

Incels became the protagonist of murder and suicide news…

People who are ‘incel’, who feed and grow their hatred by spending time on the forums where the incel people congregate, in the past They became the main characters of many bad events. Almost all incidents ended in murder and then suicide.

For example, in 2009 a man named George Sodini first killed three women, then committed suicide. Footprints on the internet showed that he was an ‘incel’. He hated women and wanted them dead… What’s even more frightening is that what this man did when “going Sodini” turned into a “statement” and was glorified among his thin communities…

The coming years dozens of similar cases.Many people who describe themselves as thin, talk on forums and social media about misogyny, and often express their thoughts, such as suicide, murder and rape, have killed and died. In addition, when one of them talks about suicidal thoughts, instead of trying to stop him, he instigates murder with statements like “since you’re going, don’t go alone”.

These people, who are far from common sense, self-confidence and conscience, because they avoid taking responsibility for solving their personal problems and being a healthy individual.Dozens of innocent people were killed…

Why would a man do this to himself?

We’ve seen examples of the damage that the hatred of the Incels can do, and I want to talk about why you throw yourself into such a pit of trauma, how you can normalize hatred so much.

Create a simple drawing of the audience that says ‘incel’; male, usually heterosexual, often with a history of rejection by a femaleWe are talking about a community that is expanding to a wide audience between the ages of 14-35.

But there are more crucial similarities. Almost all incels they hate their own body, life and social status. They feel that they are in a hopeless position, that they have never had the chance to have sex or a romantic relationship and never will.

That’s the difference between a Chad and an Incel, according to the Incels. Facial lines, nose, bone structure…

Because according to them their appearance depends on their bad genetics and they can’t change it, their status and social life are also hindered in this way, especially by women, nor can they develop it. Men who constantly command women what to look like, tell them how to live their lives, and don’t hesitate to kill if it’s not the way they want to, hate women because they can’t do what they want anymore. Very ironic…

Especially at a young age, the answers received in communication with the other party for sex or a romantic relationship can negatively affect the psychology of the person. Again regardless of the gender of the person The fact that he cannot bear the burdens that society imposes on him and cannot find a label to which he belongs also has a major influence on his psychology.

In such scenarios, it is imperative that these people receive support, make peace with themselves and pave the way to become social individuals. For thinners, however, the situation is the opposite. Because they feel they belong and admitted their ‘poorness’moreover, they find a community that has managed to turn this ‘psychology of inferiority’ into hatred and refer it to another source. As such, instead of trying to discover and accept oneself. they rather spit hate and take no responsibility. Although this is a terrible behavior and a wrong way, unfortunately the easiest way for an individual in that psychology… That’s why their numbers are increasing.

The “fake lives” blown up by social media and internet culture are quite effective for thin people.

As you’ve noticed so far, thinners are in constant competition. For a woman to ‘choose them’ they should be handsome, rich, powerful believes; And because they cannot be like that, they are filled with despair and hatred. Then they justify murder, rape and violence themselves.

This brutal, inhuman look very far from the reality reflected in social media and even porn culture product of a landscape. Because unfortunately such an image is reflected… What young people using social media look like, what they have, what kind of life they lead, how beautiful or handsome they are, ‘everything’ means to them.

This puts enormous pressure on all young people, regardless of their gender. Young women and men trying to look like ‘that woman/man’ with aesthetics, those trying to take pictures with their logo on their car, those trying to make their lives as colorful as possible, those who give up their own reality to make them look beautiful and rich…

Another crime is women’s sexuality and lives. the idea that it should be under the control of the man alone in caring societies. The woman becomes the wife of the man chosen for her, gives him children, does what he wants. If he tries to choose his partner, he must of course be punished… This sick thought, choose to deny their own shortcomings and responsibilitiesturns into a terrible asset used by unconscious, ignorant and evil people…

In 2022, those who still make women’s individual rights and freedoms a topic of discussion, those who talk about the “good and evil” of women’s freedoms, in addition to endangering the lives of millions of women, will cause many of such far-fetched happenings…

About how to be ‘the most ideal’ for both men and women those who try to draw boundaries, Those who don’t stop making stupid sentences that start with “what you call a woman” and “what you call a man” they must be equally responsible and willing to suffer remorse.

Sources: Center for Research and Evidence on Security Threats, BBC News, The Conversation, The New Yorker