Pair bonding, which can be translated as ‘pair bonding’ in Turkish, is a concept that describes the structure of interpair interaction, psychological and social bonding, as well as reproductive rituals in species. Numerous studies conducted over the years, what a pair bond is, what types it comes in and what its limits are certain.

Data from various studies In a study in which these limits were investigated and compiled, these limits were assessed on the observed behavior and the consistency of this behavior and a picture emerged.

The table created contains the behavior of a pair when they are ‘tied’, according to the species;

There are a total of 9 different types of behavior in the table. 9 out of 9, the greatest variety of behaviors are found in humans.. And in titi monkeys, another primate…

Before examining all behaviors one by one, it is also necessary to briefly and clearly define what pair bonding is;

Many species in nature There is a perceived bond between the couples. Pairs with this bond act together, exhibiting behaviors that we might call “emotional” for each other, in areas such as caregiving, feeding, and territorial protection. help each other and when they are separated from each other, they are shown to show sadness and fear.

When all these behaviors are examined, it can be seen that the diversity of species is extremely rich, the behavior is largely consistent, and the living things have bonds. It is possible to observe many neural mechanisms in their brains. is detected. So this bond is not just with behavior, We can also observe it in the lab environment. This bond is called ‘pair bond’. In fact, according to some researchers, we humans are in a “romantic relationship” or “This is what he calls “love”…

So what are these behaviors that show a couple is completely committed to each other?

An. Living in pairs: The most distinctive feature of bonded couples is that they live together in every way. In other words, being side by side and facing life together; It should be done consistently and for a long time.

2.’Being together outside the reproductive period: When we adapt this expression for humans, the result is as follows; not simply coming together to reproduce and staying together before and after reproduction.

3. Couples look at each other: If a couple is really committed to each other, they should “look” at each other. For example, here ‘watching’ is removing each other’s lice for Titi monkeys; We can say that we care for him and help him meet his material and spiritual needs.

4. Couples who exhibit special behavior towards each other: There are certain behaviors that mated pairs exhibit within their own species that are exclusive to each other. Like cuddling, using gestures of devotion, being unhappy or stressed when he’s not around…

5. Owning and protecting the home: This item is generally referred to as “territorial defense” and means a pair of animals that defend the territory they live in together. For us humans, we can say it simply as ‘owning the house and taking care of its protection and care together’.

6. Taking care of babies together: One of the most important behaviors that reveal a couple’s bond is to care for the offspring together. This behavior is common to all species in which dependent pairs are seen. So when a couple is really attached, it’s not just the female who takes care of the baby…

7. Pairs that exhibit coordinated behavior specific to each other: Again, to give an example from the animal kingdom, we can say that some sea creatures greet each other with special greetings, and some species of birds make duets with special “songs” and repeat them. For humans, we can say that they are a kind of repetitive rituals arranged in daily life, specifically for that couple.

8. Spending time together and ‘choosing’ the partner: It’s actually pretty obvious; pairs, being bonded to each other, prefer to spend more time with each other than other members of the species, aside from necessity and “benefit” criteria. So if he’d rather spend time with you than his friends, you can breathe a sigh of relief 🙂

9. Efforts of couples to avoid and comfort each other’s stress: If a couple supports each other in stressful situations; If they try to fight stress and comfort each other, it’s a sign that they’re a committed couple…

So why did living beings choose to live by being attached to another living being instead of being polygamous?

Although in general this varies from species to species genres where living together and having a ‘comrade’ makes life easier, as it were went this way. In species where baby care, feeding and shelter issues can be easily resolved as a couple, this has become an advantage and has become a habit…

Research on human monogamy has not yet reached a definitive conclusion; Some think people become monogamous after developing attachment behaviors as a couple, while others think attachment settles down after monogamy…